While all cultures have developed ways to pay last respects
when people die, there are few traditions to mark the passing
of our companion animals. Finding a personal way to say goodbye
and honor our pets is important to our emotional health and
well-being as we continue our lives without them. Here are five
simple ways you can honor the memory of your pet.
Hold a memorial service. Let yourself and others who
knew and loved your pet say goodbye and share memories during a
memorial service. You can hold a service anywhere that feels
right to you—at a pet cemetery, in your backyard, in your pet's
favorite park, or at any place that reminds you of special
times shared with your pet.
Find a special place for your pet's ashes. Keep your
pet's ashes in a beautiful urn or bury them in a meaningful
place on your property. Jill, of Pacifica, California, and her
family hiked two miles through the snow to put the ashes of
their dog, Mighty, to rest in his favorite spot on their
mountain property.
Create a living memorial. Let your pet's spirit live
again on earth by planting a tree, bush, or flower bed in your
yard. Or attach a small plaque to a flowerpot or vase in your
home. Sandy, of Lapeer, Michigan, planted daisies around her
mailbox to honor her deceased beagle, Daisy, who had always
gone with Sandy to fetch the mail.
Make a scrapbook. Honor and remember your pet by
creating a scrapbook or photo collage. Andrea, of Long Beach,
California, has a memorial card her eighty-one-year-old father
made in memory of her cockatiel, Pumpkin. The card, which
includes loving words from the family and several photos, is
displayed on Andrea's coffee table alongside a photo of Pumpkin
and a redwood box containing Pumpkin's ashes.
Write down your feelings. Put your emotions in
writing by composing a poem or story about your pet's life and
what made her so special. You might even consider writing a
letter to your departed pet, telling him how much you love and
miss him. Christine, of Sunnyvale, California, wrote a
first-person account from her cat Maya's perspective as Maya
left this world to join other animals in a better place. You
can send your pet's story to Kindred Spirits, or you can post
it on a Web site.